Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Three

Three years ago today, I married my best friend.


Since that day, life hasn't always been easy. We've encountered our fair share of changes and trials, heck, we've already lived in four different states since tying the knot! We've laughed and we've cried, had ups and downs, but I can honestly say that the good in the past 36 months as husband and wife has FAR outweighed the bad. I feel like we've both learned so much about ourselves and each other, and although we are nowhere near perfect, I feel like we've really started to understand what it takes to make a marriage work. To not sweat the small stuff (something we're both still working on...). To not hold grudges and show grace to each other. To continually trust that the Lord has a plan for our lives and to not stress about the future, but to enjoy each moment.


And you know what?

We have fun together.

Honestly, I think that is really the thing that I would say is the best part about our marriage is just that we genuinely enjoy each other's company and want to spend time together. Even after three years of marriage and moving around I can honestly say that we are not sick of each other, but quite the opposite. There is no one I'd rather spend time with, and I love that Cam makes me laugh every single day. No matter what we're doing, we can have a good time as long as we're together. Whether it's traveling across the country or just lounging on the couch in our sweats eating cookies because we're stuck in a June snowstorm (yeah, that happened this week...), every day is an adventure that I feel so blessed we get to experience together.

I am so thankful for Cameron, and I couldn't have asked for a better partner to go through life with. Even after all this time, I'm still amazed by his kindess, intelligence, strength, and all the other qualities that make him such an incredible man. I really appreciate his leadership in our marriage and how dilligent he is in planning for our future. I think we'd both agree that one of the best parts of our marriage thus far has been adopting Lola, and it makes my heart smile to see just how much he loves that dog. I have no doubt that he will be an excellent dad one day (a day that is still a few years in the future for those inquiring minds who may be wondering!) and I'm so excited for what the future holds for us! I love you Cameron!


(awwww)

 Moving on, today is the three year anniversary of our wedding, and what kind of blogger would I be if I didn't take a little time to reminisce about the big day?

In a way I can't believe it's been three years, but at the same time our wedding also feels like it was ages ago. Being in Chicago for a wedding recently made me think back to our special day, and ironically they actually chose the same first dance song as we did! ("Can't Help Falling In Love"--they had their DJ play the gorgeous Ingrid Michaelson version, while we had our band play it for us) It also made me think about weddings (and blogging) and I wanted to share some of those thoughts with you.

Let me just say first of all that I love weddings. I think marriage is a beautiful, wonderful thing and it's something that should be celebrated.At the same time, the blog world definitely puts a big focus on the wedding and I think sometimes that can be very misleading and bring up a lot of negative feelings like anxiety, comparisson, and just straight up craziness.

When we got married, I was not blogging and Pinterest was not around. While I did spend a lot of time online looking for ideas, I mainly looked at places like TheKnot.com and was not aware of the vast amount of inspiration that I know is out there today. And honestly, it's probably a good thing because I think my head might have exploded had I been blogging back then. However, as a married gal, I'll be perfectly honest and admit that there are definitely some things that I might have changed about my wedding if I was engaged now. I have so many fun ideas that I've pinned over the last year that I would have loved to incorporate. Since moving so many times, I've seen many amazing venues across the country that would have been incredible to get married in. And I've seen so many amazing wedding photos that have honestly made me a little jealous.

Because the biggest thing that I would have changed about our wedding? I would have chosen a different photographer. I really was just not happy with our wedding photos, and it's something that's bugged me since we got married. I've complained to Cam about this many (many) times since our wedding and, frankly, he's sick of hearing about it so I just wanted to share my thoughts here. Did our photographer get some good photos? Yes. Did I hate all the photos? No. But did I dislike I lot of them? Yes. Did I feel he could have done a better job of capturing the day? Yes. I think why I'm still so bothered by this issue is the fact that (at least in my experience) your wedding day is such a rush of emotions and to me it felt like it was all sort of a blur. So those photos are my main documentation of the day, and the fact that I dislike them kind of makes me sad. And although our wedding was fun, it was sort of a whirlwind and I don't necessarily look back on it thinking that was greatest day of my life. Oh, and our bakery made a little bit of a mistake with the order of the icing on the tiers of our cake--the pattern was supposed to go squiggles/dots/squiggles/dots, not squiggles/dots/dots/squiggles. I didn't notice that on our wedding day (so no one else probaby did either) but it still ticked me off when I saw the pictures.

So why am I sharing this with you and being so negative in my anniversary post?

Because while the day may have flown by and I didn't necessarily love my photos and the bakery made a litte mistake with the cake, SO WHAT? I feel like so many blogs I read are all like "my wedding was the most perfect, magical, awesome day of my life and every single thing was amazing and I wouldn't change a thing." I'm just trying to be real with all you brides and brides-to-be and say it's OK if everything doesn't go perfectly on your wedding day. Chances are something won't go as planned, and you know what? It's fine. As fabulous as your wedding day may (or may not) be, the real fun comes after! If you're so solely fixated on the party and go in with the attitude that your wedding is going to be the best day ever and it's all downhill from there, I think you're doing your marriage a disservice. Since June 6, 2009, Cam and I have had some pretty incredible days--from celebrating our first anniversary in Italy, to adopting a dog, and so many other big and little moments of happiness.

Basically what I'm trying to say is that life isn't perfect, and there's no such thing as a perfect wedding. I just feel like there is this stigma in the blog world against actually admitting that. As positive and helpful as wedding blogs are, I feel that sometimes they don't paint the whole picture so I wanted to share my thoughts on the subject. Weddings are great, but the joy of married life is far greater. And I definitely would not trade my last three years of marriage in order to have had more Pinterest-worthy table numbers. End of story.

(steps down from soapbox)

And don't get me wrong, I really did love our wedding. We got married in Ann Arbor, Michigan which is where we both went to school, met, and fell in love so it was extremely significant for us. I absolutely loved the church where we got married, and our reception site ended up being the perfect fit for us. I loved our colors (navy & pink!), and I wouldn't have changed my dress (which I loved), the bridesmaids dresses, or tuxes. Our band was awesome, and I adored our first dance song (which Cam picked out). Our florist did an amazing job incorporating my favorite flowers (peonies and roses!) and I loved our cute pink favor boxes filled with navy and pink m&ms (my favorite candy) with our monogrammed labels and navy ribbon, even if our photographer did neglect to get a picture of them. And for the record? I was definitely not one of those brides that's all "oh I didn't even have a piece of cake at my wedding"...quite the opposite, I'm pretty sure I had two slices! What can I say, I love cake. And despite the little mix-up with the layers, I did think our cake was beautiful and delicious. I felt our wedding was very elegant and traditional, which is exactly what Cam and I both wanted and what I'd still want if I was planning my wedding now. Overall, it was such a beautiful day and it was one of the best days of my life thus far.
(I just get ticked when I read blogs that are like my wedding was THE BEST day of my life and act like everything after the wedding is terrible!)

And one more thing I definitely wouldn't have changed about our wedding?


The person I married.

Hands down, best decision ever.

(Also, Cam looks so young in this picture, it makes me smile)

I wanted to share a few of my favorite memories from the day...enjoy!
(Also, don't mind the fact that the photos are all different sizes, I took them from my FB album and it was being all weird)

My Michigan garter was my something blue :)
We took a lot of our wedding photos at the Law Quad at U of M, which is one of the most beautiful spots on campus
This picture was taken in the spot where we got engaged, under the Engineering Arch on campus per Michigan tradition...a proposal that fit "us" perfectly :)
Like a river flows surely to the sea
Darling so it goes
Some things are meant to be
So take my hand, and take my whole life too
Cause I can't help falling in love with you
This was one of the funniest moments of the wedding--my little cousin Evan caught the garter!
Luckily my friend Kristen was a good sport :)
Shout!

Looking back at these pictures does make me happy because I feel really blessed that we had a gorgeous wedding that totally fit our lives at the time, and I'm especially thankful for the fact that we had our friends and family there to celebrate with us. If you're actually still reading this post (I know it was super long!) thanks for sharing this walk down memory lane with me! Xoxo

PS: If you're interested in finding out more about our wedding, you can check out the post I wrote for our anniversary last year :)

19 comments:

  1. happy anniversary!! your wedding was absolutely gorgeous

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  2. Happy Anniversary!!!!! Your wedding photos are amazing!!! Hope you have the most fabulous day! xoxo!

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  3. First happy anniversary! Second, I love your pictures. I know how easy it is to have a more critical eye when it's about yourself or your personal expectations. But, I think the photos are great. I loved your dress and the architectural details are amazing.

    PS- I've always said if I could have another wedding I woul definitely do pink and navy. Love it!

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  4. Happy Anniversary! Your wedding photos are beautiful!

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  5. Happy anniversary! I know what you mean...it's hard not to look back and wish you could have changed something. Regardless you look happy and beautiful! And that's all that matters! Enjoy your anniversary!

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  6. oh girl happy happy anniversary! Dont be silly, your pictures are stunning and I can tell how in LOVE you guys are! Cheers to many many more!

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  7. Happy Anniversary!!! You two make such a beautiful couple! I think your photos are absolutely gorgeous...really! I completely understand though exactly where you are coming from. You were such a stunning bride and you have so many fabulous pictures of you two together on your wedding day. I love them! Well let me tell you that this girl forgot to schedule time for us just to go take pictures together. My husband had to tell me to get over it after hearing me be upset about it time after time! hah Good for you for letting it all out and just saying it though. Hopefully that helps!

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  8. Awww happy anniversary!!! And your wedding looked like so much fun!! You were one gorgeous bride my dear!!

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  9. You are such a gorgeous bride! I love all of those pictures. I totally know what you mean about the blog world and the idea of a perfect wedding. The idea isn't to be perfect for everyone else, but perfect to you - and i think that's what people can often forget. You're so right - it's the idea of the joy of marriage that matters most!

    Hope you two have a wonderful anniversary today followed by many many more amazing years :) xo

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  10. Happy Anniversary! Loved looking at your beautiful pics!

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  11. Happy Anniversary! You're right - the wedding is just a day. It's the days and years ahead that are important!

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  12. Happy Anniversary!! Love your photos and your dress is gorgeous!! Love your honesty too...wedding days may be pretty darn close to perfect but you can't tell me there aren't some hiccups!

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  13. Oh your wedding was so beautiful! I'm very partial to cala lilies, so I think your flowers are GORGEOUS! Happy happy anniversary to you two! I hope you're doing something fun :)

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  14. How cute is that Michigan garter?! Love that!

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  15. Hello, This is my first visit to your blog. I love that it was about your wedding/anniversary! I totally agree with you to be totally REAL in the blog world. Life isn't a fantasy, but reality! I don't blame you for being a little miffed about the wedding cake etc...a girl deserves a perfect wedding...but unfortunately doesn't mean she will get it. Here is something that will put a smile on your face. On our wedding day, we were we were outside and the photographer was shooting away and up came the sprinkler system and drenched us all before we could get away:( So I guess all we can do is pray for the best and Let God do the rest. Thank you for sharing your beautiful day with us.
    Laurie @ Pride in Photos

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  16. Happy Anniversary to you and your hubby! And Michigan :) You are just down the road from me here in Grand Rapids!

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  17. this got me all teary-eyed. happy 36 months to you two! and it looks like Lola is one lucky dog :) to have such great parents. I kind of love your little family.

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  18. I know I'm a little late on this, but happy anniversary! Your pictures are beautiful and I love the advice that you gave. Its so true. Don't sweat the small stuff because the positives outweigh the negatives. Hope you guys have a wonderful time celebrating.

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Your sweet words make my day! :)

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